The two responses to the Dec. 14 article about a teen's pregnancy show obvious misunderstanding of the situation. Unfortunately, this type of misunderstanding has contributed to negativity associated with adoption in society.
To say the birth mother is not brave shows ignorance and lack of sensitivity. Not only is she sharing her story, thus promoting healthy adoptions, she is choosing the best option for the baby. Few people can openly admit that somebody else would be more able to care for their own biological child. She is brave for doing this.
Also, the idea that this article glorifies teenage pregnancy shows a refusal to deal with difficult situations. Not getting pregnant would probably have been the best choice. However, publicizing a responsible way to deal with pregnancy gives hope to scared teenagers and infertile couples, both of whom are hurting. The idea that teens are more likely to become pregnant by becoming more informed about options is absurd. Refusing to openly discuss unplanned pregnancies and adoption has contributed to a stigma associated with adoption, most directly and permanently affecting adoptees.
As parents, we thank God every day for our child's birth mother and the openness we received. Social workers and other advocates have worked hard to increase candor in an area that has historically been seen as secretive or even shameful. We hope The Gazette continues to print articles of this nature, but more so, we hope readers will read with an open mind and a regard for everybody involved the situation.
Kevin and Angela McWilliams